You.
You need your power. I need my power.
However, you don’t need MY power and vice versa.
I want to encourage Moms today. Stop giving away your power. No one can take your power from you unless you willingly surrender it.
I love this quote by H. Jackson Brown, Jr., the author of Life’s Little Instruction Book.
“Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you:
love, prayer, and forgiveness.”
Let me be clear here. Forgiveness is not letting someone walk all over you. That is giving your power away. You’ve probably heard it said that the act of forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness allows you to move on. The power to forgive comes from knowing that that person has no power over you.
When I embrace the power of forgiveness I embrace love, joy & confidence to live my life freely.
I have someone in my life right now (who will remain nameless) that has had such power over me because I have GIVEN it to that person. I have allowed that person to steal my time and my joy – and they know NOTHING about it! That’s right, they don’t even know the power they have. I should say HAD. I have humbly and purposefully taken the power back. There have been times where I’ve had to actually say, “No More. You will not treat me like this if you want this relationship to continue.” Taking your power requires boldness. Regardless, I will not let any more time or joy be stolen from me because of this relationship. I’ve drawn a line.
And I suggest you do the same. Have you sold your peace and joy to someone over & over again, who is none the wiser?
Here are 3 steps to taking it back.
1. Of course the first is forgiveness. Depending on the depth of hurt, I usually don’t have the ability in me to offer forgiveness in my own strength. Take the hurt to God. Tell Him you were wronged. Tell Him you deserve respect from that person. Ask him to replace that anger and frustration with His tender love & mercy. Ask Him to help you deal with it in a healthy manner.
2. Change your focus – in other words, Go to your happy place! You’ve heard it said that the dog you feed the most is the one that wins the fight… so stop feeding into the unforgiveness. Put your time & resources & love into healthy relationships.
3. Reach out. This is a tricky one. If you are in a physically abusive situation, reaching out to the abuser is not the way to go. However, still reach out. Reach out to someone you do trust. Reach out to someone who has your best interest at heart. Don’t be afraid to open up. If we truly want our power back, we will find a way to break free from the chains that try to bind us.
What is one thing that you do in order to forgive? Let’s encourage one another…
Boundaries When to Say Yes, When to Say No, When to Take Control of Your Life
This is a great resource book by Henry Cloud & John Townsend, to deal with this issue of forgiveness and setting personal boundaries.
Have you given your power away? Me too. Let’s take it back. Today.
Keep Lovin’ Moms!
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