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Are You The World’s Worst Mother? June 13, 2010

Filed under: Across My Heart,Mom Matters,PopCulture — daniellebrower @ 11:17 pm
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What if you won the Worst Mother Ever award?

Lindsay Lohan’s mom did. How awful is that?

It was bestowed upon her by TMZ, a celeb gossip/news company (okay, technically from an online poll TMZ held). TMZ is not known for their excellence in journalism, but they are well-known & have a sizable following. And now Dina Lohan is known. Not just for being famous LiLo’s Mom, but for wearing the label of “Worst Mother Ever”  for things like dropping her daughter off at a bar when she was supposed to be in rehab… yeah. Wonder if her younger kids ever use that award against her? Probably. I would have when I was a kid, for sure.

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This story is not to shame or judge Dina Lohan. Lord knows she needs prayer! Just an example to show that you are in fact NOT the worst mother in the world.

Besides the fact that you AREN’T, do you ever FEEL like the worst mother who walks the planet?

How about when your 2-year-old child falls head first, out of the cart onto the cement ground at the grocery store? Or when you get a call from the kindergarten principal saying that your kid threatened another kid with a pair of safety scissors? (pretty sure these two incidents are related somehow)

At times we all feel as though someone is about to hand us the Worst Mother trophy.

We screw up. We blow it. We scream.

We scold & talk to our precious child as if they were an idiot.

We spank in anger. We want to run away!

{I might need some confirmation that I’m not the only one who blows it.}

I can guarantee that all of you reading this blog love your kids. And I wouldn’t be going too far out on a limb to say you’d gladly lay your life down for them.

Just like we shouldn’t take all the credit when our kid scores the winning hit in the little league baseball game or invents the next Nobel Prize winning genetic code that stops cancer in its tracks… we can’t take all the credit for when things go wrong.

Moms, don’t allow your guilt to suck out the joys of motherhood. Realize you & your kids are gonna make mistakes: some more embarrassing than others ~ some with life-altering consequences.  It’s in those times that our kids need our love the most, not our shame.

We should strive to be the best examples, but lets allow for screw ups.

Tantrums will be thrown in public.

Naughty words will be blurted out in front of your MIL.

And don’t even get me started about what the kids will do! 🙂

Love them through their humanity ~ the good, the bad, the ugly. In that process of letting our kids be human, how about we do the same for ourselves? When you blow it, go to God, and your child, if necessary, and ask forgiveness. Teach them by example to forgive & move forward.

Release the burden of ‘motherhood’ guilt. Chances are no one is going to show up at your door and slap you with a “Worst Mother Ever” award. Unless you’re Dina Lohan. Yeah. We need to pray for that woman! 🙂

I wanna hear from you!

Have your or your kids done something lately that have made you feel as though the paparazzi might chase you down with an award you DON’T want? 🙂

Shine On Sisters!

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4 Responses to “Are You The World’s Worst Mother?”

  1. shannon Says:

    As you know, my 5 year old is having tantrums – she just had another one at 6 am and of course my husband was in the shower so he missed yet another one – but this time she calmed down in 10 minutes rather than an hour. I think I did some right things that helped diffuse the situation while also not letting her get her way. The thing I need to remember most is that if I want my kids to be calm, I have to be calm!

    Being a parent is hard but thankfully God is there to give us wisdom. Church yesterday was all about discipline. Talk about right timing!

    • Shannon – you can let your 5 year old know that she’s the inspiration behind this blog post! 🙂 It got me thinking & realizing how hard moms can be on themselves when their kids are less than cooperative! You are making progress! Realizing that you have to be calm is HUGE! I’ll have to remember that one too! And it is just a phase, but when it rains it pours! You’ll get through this – especially with all the encouragement you’re getting at church! 🙂

  2. Kristina Says:

    I’ve bestowed upon myself the “Worst Mother Ever” award many times including the day I forgot it was school picture day and the day I forgot to go to the Teddy Bear Picnic. It’s way more fun to win “Mom of the Year!” There really is no in between, is there? 😉

    I need to catch up on your blogs! Congrats on your new responsibilities and adventures!! 🙂

    • We are often our worst critics, aren’t we Kristina? I agree, winning Mom of the Year is better. When my kids tell me they love me, that’s the equivalent to winning Mom of the Year in my book! 🙂 Enjoy the blog!


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